文章摘自我15年所译的Quora上的一篇文章，原作者是 Manisha Sabnani。
People often confuse marriage and dependency. Couples many times enter into marriage thinking that the other person will fix all of their problems, make them happy, support them fully, enjoy all of their activities, and provide unconditional love. This is a fallacy, and if you enter into marriage believing this, you are doomed.
The problem with getting married is that you exchange independence for love, thinking that love is static. When life gets rough and love is tested, as it eventually always will, you become angry and resentful that you gave up everything that was important to you for this person who no longer makes you a priority.
结婚的问题在于，你用独立换取了爱情，以为爱情是一成不变的。当生活变得艰难，爱情受到考验的时候 —— 这种情况迟早会发生 —— 你会生气和怨恨，因为你为了这个人放弃了对你来说很重要的一切，而他却不再以你为优先。
Marriage should actually be viewed as two separate individuals going on a journey together. These individuals may have different interests, needs, and emotional ups and downs at different times. Healthy married couples allow their spouses the space and room to go through the various cycles of life. They cannot necessarily fix things for each other, and they will argue in the process. The only value a spouse can really provide is saying, "No matter what, I will always be here." When nothing else is the world is certain and you are at a point in your life where you doubt yourself, you should be able to rely on your partner waiting at the end of that long dark road for you.
Do not expect marriage to fix your problems and bring you everlasting happiness. This is not a fairy tale. Fix your own problems, create your own experiences, and continue to grow as individuals. Enjoy your partner for the happy moments that you have together during this process. That is the only way to have a long, fulfilling marriage.
What's the most disturbing truth about marriage?: https://www.quora.com/Whats-the-most-disturbing-truth-about-marriage